How many people really listen to the lyrics and the meanings in so many songs? I think that so many people are entranced by the beat and the sound of a song without really paying attention to the lyrics and actually trying to figure out the possible meaning behind a song. It explains why there is so much terrible music that’s so popular.
I have said before that it would be so much easier for me if I could communicate certain things with songs. Today was one of those days where I needed to get lost in song again. And I thought it would be good to explain some of the songs I listen to and their deeper meanings (at least for me). Disclaimer: In some instances I might disagree with the lyrics you find for these songs. In those instances I will be talking about what I’m hearing.
And to kick it off
I’m starting with a song that has a profound impact on my beliefs around love.
A good heart – Feargal Sharkey
“I hear a lot of stories
I suppose they could be true
All about love
And what it can do to you
Highest risk of striking out
The risk of getting hurt
I have so much to learn”
Isn’t it odd how most of the stories and fears you hear around love are often so negative? The fears of “What if it doesn’t work out?” and the worry about opening up to someone and then getting hurt in the process. I’m not talking about the approach anxiety or the “what if they don’t feel the same” fears. The fears involved in a relationship are big and there is a big concern about getting hurt in a relationship or when it goes bad.
“Well, I know
‘Cause I think about it all the time
That real love is quite a prize”
Well yeah. I do spend an inordinate amount of time thinking about it 🙂 And that one line: Real love is quite a prize sits at the core of my beliefs.
“And a good heart these days is hard to find
True love, the lasting kind
A good heart these days is hard to find
So please be gentle with this heart of mine”
I’m not going to go into the possible explanations for what a ‘good heart’ could possibly be (and I have some of my own). But I do think that this is a big thing lacking these days and that a lot of the people with good hearts (at their core) are spending a great deal of time hiding it. Simply said, people with good hearts tend to be open to being used and manipulated by others.
This is is also a great reminder that you need to remember that in a relationship, specially when you reach the ‘true love’ levels you are dealing with someone’s deepest emotions and so many people forget to tread lightly on this softest ground.
“My expectations may be high, I blame it on my youth
Soon enough I’ll learn the painful truth”
I’m often asked why I’m still single and my response is “I’m very picky”. I don’t bounce in and out of relationships and I do have very high expectations from a relationship. And even if it rarely makes sense to me I don’t even consider a relationship with someone unless something special happens. And the painful truth for me is that there are very few people who come even close to being considered special. And what hurts even more is that even the limited number of girls that have gotten past my initial bullshit tend to sometimes not be what I hoped.
“As I reflect on all my childhood dreams
My ideas of love weren’t as foolish as they seemed
Well I know, it’s a dream I’m willing to defend
I know it will be worth it in the end”
A few times now I’ve gotten close to the life long quest for my soul mate. And all things considered, those times were spectacular. And other times I’ve considered giving up and settling for less but in the end decided that I won’t. It’s not easy and the fears of remaining alone are always there. But one day I will find ‘the one’. And it will be worth it all a million times over.
The game of love is meant to be played in such a way that the other person wins